Are You Anything Like Kramer?

I have times where I feel like I am a genius when it comes to music. This is one of those times. There.s an artist lurking around the streets named Wale [pronounced Wa-Le]. He reps the DMV [DC, Maryland, Virginia] area and I feel he is HIGHLY underrated. A few nights ago, I was introduced to a song called “The Kramer” off his mixtape brilliantly entitled “The Mixtape About Nothing”. The first time I heard the song, I was blown away. It left me speechless and got me interested to know more about this artist.




“The Mixtape About Nothing” was released May 30, 208. This was Wale.s 4th mixtape and from the few songs I.ve heard, this “NOTHING” is really something...and beyond. For the past few days, I have been listening to random songs on the mixtape. Impressed. I love that he has a song called “The Roots Song Wale Is On”, I laughed. I was told to listen to “The Meeting” [not sure if it is on the mixtape] and I would thank my friend later. I must say, thank you A. Step! I have officially made it my duty to listen to the entire mixtape and speak on it as a whole.





The song starts out with a clip from when Kramer [Michael Richards] was performing at a nightclub and got upset and called some people attending “niggers”. From here, I.ll speak on my take of the song.

*Song Located On Playlist*

“And P say that I should stop saying nigga, But if I did, what would be the difference?”

We, as young, African Americans, decided to take this derogatory word and make it “positive”. But what really is so positive about it. Wale goes on to say even if we stopped saying “nigga”, we.d still be looked at as such. Unfortunately, our people would still be lazy, blaming others for our own problems, violent, and non-supportive [my opinion, not his.] Ok, so what if we stopped saying nigga. We still put each other down. We as black people have been through so much in our history and it is so sad for me to say that we are not as close as we should be. We.d rather lie, cheat, steal, and kill, JUST to see the next person fall. I don.t believe that anybody has ever stopped to think that we ALL can be successful as the next person. They say that there.s limited room at the top, they lied.

“And bitches say bitch like bitch is not offensive, When niggas say bitch, all of the sudden, they offended.”

When I heard this, I choked because it is true. I can honestly say that when I was younger, I got offended by this because I wasn.t using the word to call somebody out. Now, if a man calls me a bitch, I don.t get upset. “It.s not what they call you. It.s what you answer too.” It rocks my MIND that a female would get upset that a man would call her a bitch when she uses the word like it.s a pronoun. Sad.

“And niggas say nigga to a nigga, A nigga write nigga in a lyric, expect the white boy to omit it, The white boy spit it like he spit it, Recite it to his friends who, by the way, ain't niggas.”

This part I was EXCITED to hear! My homegirl asked on twitter was it ok for a white person to retweet something if it had nigga in it. I told her yes. We can NOT get mad at white people that we are cool with for saying nigga. WE CAN.T! I will NOT allow it! You can.t expect white people to interact with us and NOT say the word, or even think about it. I.ve known a few white people to say nigga. I took no offense. NONE!

“Cuz under every nigga, there's a little bit of Kramer,
Self-hatred...I hate you...and myself...
Niggas...”

Agreed. I agree with taking a negative SITUATION and turning it into a positive, but this doesn.t quite fall under that umbrella. I feel the word does hurt us as a people. I feel that by saying it the way we do, we make it ok for ANYBODY to say it. The language doesn.t have a barrier. It is for all people to use whether it be good, bad or indifferent. So why get mad? We should be mad at ourselves. Our forefather’s wouldn.t be too pleased if they lived to see what has become of their dreams, hopes, and ambitions.

I must admit, I am not playing the innocent card. I say nigga and after hearing this song, thinking on it, and writing this blog...I feel that it is time for a change. It will be quite hard for me. When you are engulfed with it, it is becomes a harder habit to break. But I am willing to. I have a mind of my own and it is up to me, with God.s help, to control it. I can.t be influenced by what is going on around me. I can.t do what everybody else is doing. That is out of my character. I thank Wale for this song. It makes sense. It opens eyes. Nobody is perfect and I don.t expect the world to stop saying nigga but maybe this song will help some understand what saying it really means.


Sincerely, Dyferent

All You Have In This Life Is Your Name

"You can.t be a hoe and be sensitive. I will not allow it." -Dyferent

People NEVER cease to amaze me. I admit, I watch a hell of a lot of tv. These days, all I see is pure madness around me, wheather it.s on tv or in real life. It.s reall sad. I understand having an opinion, even if no one asks you for it. HOWEVER, do not have the balls to get upset when somebody pulls your card. it.s not a smart thing to do. I understand people having their assumptions or even percieving a situation wrong, that.s life. BUT if the shoe fits and you appear to wear it with no shame, getting bent out of shape when someone sees you for what you are is silly...and rude. all metaphor.s aside, don.t get mad if you are acting like a hoe that you get treated as such. It.s very nonsensical and I will laugh at you with NO shame.

There are NOT different levels of hoeing. That.s like saying there.s different levels of your virginity. That.s a rule that some bum made up to justify their ridiculious actions. A chicken can.t be a peacock just because you put feathers on it. I can.t and I won.t allow it. So he sexed 45 people and you only sexed 40. Get married and commit your hoe lives to each other because you ar BOTH guilty. It really chaps my buns [shoutout to HiteKfame for that one] for the hoe to say he is not a hoe because somebody else had sex with more people than him. NEWSFLASH: You both are...DEAL WITH IT!!! Obviously, this is a rant but I feel like somebody is going to understand all or a piece of my words. Just get a clue, or rent one hell!!!

Sincerely, Dyferent

.WeAre DorkLike.

2 Leo.s and an Aquarius . That.s really all I need in my life. weRep DORK with NO remorse. We laugh. We sing. We fight. We cry. And that is just the beginning. We share secrets, give advise, have each other.s back. We LOVE each other like no other and we understand each other. They are MORE than just my girlfriends. When I feel like the world is against me, they get it. When I have a happy moment and want to share, they are happy right along with me. We smile together more than anything. I have more inside jokes with them than I have poems, songs, and random thoughts. [Now those who know me, understand that THAT is a lot] Nikol. Kia. Asia. These girls understand me. When I try to hide what.s really going on with me from the world, my girls won.t allow me to hide from them. Together, we.ve been through a lot of obstacles. I often thank God for putting them in my life because it could have gone a different way if anybody else was dealing with my past situations. They look out for my best interest. I do the same for them. We are HONEST with each other, no matter if it may hurt feelings. This is how we do.

I.m the oldest of the bunch. 21.20.20.18. I love it. I.ll beat the breaks off anybody who tried to touch my girls. I.ve never called them my rounds because rounds will leave you. My bitches because that is disrespectful. They are my Ace of Spades. My Diamonds. My heart and my soul. I.m Alvin and these [we] are the Chipmunks. Simon and Theodore...you gotta love em! Do not try to understand our friendship. You.ll hurt yourself. Do not try to break our bond. WE will hurt you. Do not try to get in on our weirdness. You.ll NEVER succeed...

Sincerely, Dyferent

"Friendship is a pretty full-time occupation if you really are friendly with somebody. You canít have too many friends because then youíre just not really friends."

Just A Bunch Of Question Marks....

Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.
~ Roger Ebert

Finding this quote means a lot to me. I.m not one that enjoys being confused. In fact, I detest it. I wouldn.t say that I like to know everything but when I know things, I like to funny KNOW. Not wonder or assume. To sit and analyze over the "what if" or the "maybe". Confusion is defined as: to fail to distinguish between; associate by mistake; confound.

Me, I think in black and white. It.s either THIS or it.s THAT. There is really no in between. No mix ups. No gray area. So having more people in my life who see in gray is a complete positive. Yet and still I.m always confused. Its not that nothing make sense to me, I just don.t understand things. But I.m learning that I am not supposed to understand EVERYTHING. I.m not supposed to get how people.s minds work. I.m not supposed to get why people do the things they do. Or why things happen the way they do. Or how people can make the choices they make. I.m not supposed to understand. So I.ll just remain confused.

Sincerely, Dyferent

Fear? Possibly...Maybe. Hell If I Know.

It.s 2010 and thus far, I.ve had a lot of time to sit and think to myself. Think about what needed to happen in my life. One of the conclusions I came up with was I, Dyferent, am afraid of love. *crowd gasps in astonishment* I know, me admitting this to myself is a huge deal...HUGE.
The question I am stuck on is why?
3 years ago, I was on my way to fall. Fall madly in love with the gy that made everything make sense for me. Thank God I was fearful back then because that whole situation was false {or so I think}. Don.t get it confused, I.m not fearful of being happy. Love isn.t all about flowers and pink, fluffy bunnies. I.m happy as we speak so I don.t feel like love will bring me instant joy. Like anthing I do in life, it takes time and dedication and as of right now, I am not ready to go down that road. Dating thus far had done nothing but get on my nerves and given me more ammo for the book I never plan on writting but everyone continues to encourage me to do so (go figure).
So forgive me if I laugh at you all for wanting to "be my friend". I.m trying to get rid of some of the friends I have now and really enjoy my me time. Time that involves getting to know me. Learn as much as I can while I have no distractions.
So maybe I don.t fear love. Maybe I know I.m not ready for it at this time. Yeah, let.s go with that for a while.

It.s 2010 and I feel the need to start being honest with myself. I have NO problem telling others the truth, but for some reason, I couldn.t tell me the truth if my LIFE depended on it. Two years ago, I was on my way of falling in love. It scared the HELL out of me so I switched my game up. Sad, I know, but at the time, it just seemed like the logical thing to do. -shrugs-

Two years later, I am "proud" to say, I fear love. Please don.t get it twisted, I don.t fear being happy. I.m happy as we speak. But I feel love is on a different playing field than I.m use to. I know the basics of a relationship (or so I THINK I know) and I understand that it is a lot of time, work, and dedication. All of that, I can handle. But when you throw love in the mix, I gotta bail out. That.s more trust, understanding, compromising, and teamwork that I am use to. I feel like it.s harder to love now because most people are on this whole "all about me" high. I.ve seen people do some shady things and I.ve always said that if somebody hurt me like some of my friends have been hurt, I don.t think I.d really be able to recover from that.

My father cheated on my mother and by the grace of God she was able to move on. It took her forever and a day but she did it. I.m a little more fragile. I just don.t see it happeneing. So until somebody understands this FEAR...I.ll remain single.